「男人需要被視為父親。」

 

「男人需要被視為父親。」

Erick Ogutu, age 29, runs to class with his daughter Octaviah Achieng, age 2, at the Little Rock Early Childhood Development Centre in Kibera, Nairobi, Kenya, May 17, 2017. 

"Education is a basic thing that a father can give to a child. I wanted her to socialize and at this age she can learn quickly. She is very active and there are many places here for her to play." said Erick Ogutu.

The first five years of life have a profound effect on a child future ?on her health, education, wellbeing and financial success as an adult.  When parented with love, nourished and cared for in safe and stimulating environments, children develop the cognitive, emotional and behavioural skills they need to embrace opportunity and bounce back from adversity. They start life with a fair chance to grow, thrive and contribute to their communities and the world. 

But far too many children are denied the right to adequate nutrition, protection and the stimulation that comes from talk, play and responsive attention from caregivers.  These deprivations not only hold back individual children, they launch a cycle of disadvantage and inequity that can continue for generations. 

Recent advances in neuroscience pinpoint the environmental factors that can disrupt development. This neuroscience points to exciting new ways to protect vulnerable children and help them build resilience so they can survive, grow and reach their full potential. Early in life, a child develops cognitive, language and psychosocial skills, a process known as early childhood development (ECD).

Recent discoveries in neuroscience have provided a growing list of details about how a baby brain develops during this time of life. As a result, we know that a baby brain is constructed by a complex interplay of rapid neural connections that begin before birth. In a child first years, these connections occur at a once-in-a lifetime speed of 700 to 1,000 a second.  As the brain-building process continues, the n

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29歲的艾瑞克 · 歐古圖與他兩歲的女兒奧克塔維亞 · 阿琴一起跑步前往位於肯尼亞內羅畢的「小石頭兒童早期發展中心」上課。

在瑞典國慶日之際,瑞典駐泰國、老撾和緬甸大使斯塔凡.赫斯通在緬甸為慶祝瑞典和緬甸日益增強的合作關係演講時,以反思「接近(他)心靈」的主題作結,並強調父親身份及性別平等的必要。

男人需要被視為父親,要像父親一樣被看待,以及擁有作為父親應有的權利——當然,前提是他們的行為舉止要像父親一樣。瑞典在1974年為父母雙方提供有薪產假。長達480天的產假中,90天預留給父親——三個月的「父親月」,對倡議性別平等貢獻重大。

On 16 January 2016, Dhan Bhadur Gurung, aged 32, stand on crutches along with his family member at his temporary shelter in Gupsi Pakha, in Laprak, in Gorkha district, Nepal. Dhan Bhadur is the only source of income for his five members family, but during April 2015 earthquake he lost his house and also broke his leg, since then he is not able to generate any income for his family. Purnimaya Gurung, aged 69, a mother of Dhan Bhandur, has received the emergency top-up cash grant provided by UNICEF. Laprak is one of the epicenter villages of Gorkha district, where more than 600 hundreds houses were destroyed during earthquake on 25 April 2015. Hundreds of earthquake victims, particularly the elderly and young children living in shelter of highland altitude have been facing a harsh winter season after snowfall.

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32歲的丹巴杜古潤拄著拐杖與家人站在尼泊爾的一座小山頂上。

 

我很好地利用了這個假期──兩個月陪大女兒,約一個月陪小女兒。假期雖然太短,但意義非凡。妻子凱潤沒法幫助我,我需要承擔所有責任,責無旁貸。

目前社會上有一種認知,或者說刻板印象,就是生兒育女只是婦女的職責,並只會影響婦女的生活。因此,僱主會認為婦女離開崗位的時間比男性多,而這也可能影響到她們的就業和晉升機會。類似的刻板印象同樣直接影響男女間的薪水差異。

我們需要改變,能為我們,作為父親的男性,帶來更好的生活。

有空在家陪伴孩子的男性可以更好地照顧自己,減少飲酒,生活方式也更健康。家庭暴力也會隨之減少。

男性應對生活各方面有正確的主次之分。

「老實說,與我同齡的男性中,您能聽到多少人經常自問為何年輕時不夠努力工作,而又有多少人會捫心自問為何沒能花更多時間陪伴孩子?」

男性可以從承擔父親這個責任中受益。而在男性承擔父親的責任時,女性也能投入到工作中,並從中獲益。最重要的是孩子也可受惠。他們同樣需要我們──父親。

這可透過外面的攝影展得以體現。我建議大家都去仔細觀賞。

因此,今天要傳達的信息非常簡單:讓父親成為真正意義上的父親。

作為慶祝活動的一部分,赫斯通大使在緬甸舉行了以「瑞典父親」為主題的攝影展。